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Trans activist says conservatives trying to ‘dehumanize’ trans kids, weaponize ‘culture wars’ through Dr. Seuss and more

Transgender actress and activist Laverne Cox is hitting out at conservatives for allegedly dehumanizing transgender children, according to a recent interview with Variety.

What are the details?

Variety’s Caroline Framke wrote, “[T]rans people are facing unprecedented legal threats to their humanity as anti-trans bills hit states across the country, targeting trans youth in particular without any basis in scientific fact.”

Cox agreed and was “deeply concerned” over what Framke said is the “coordinated effort to undermine trans rights” through such bills, which would ban males from participating in female sports and vice versa.

“What they’re trying to do is to dehumanize these children, which is so heartbreaking,” Cox told Framke. “It’s really heartbreaking when you see the way they’re talking, the fervor with which they’re going after these children. In the face of that, we have to insist on the humanity of everyone. Insist on the humanity of trans people, and particularly the humanity of trans children.”

Cox added, “It’s no accident that 35 states have introduced over 100 bills targeting trans kids and gender-affirming health care for trans youth. They’ve been so organized.”

Cox pointed out that such attacks are indicative of a mass misunderstanding.

“Underlying all this is so much of the work we still have to do about trans people,” the activist insisted. “People still don’t fully believe that trans women are women, trans men are men, trans girls are girls, trans boys are boys, and nonbinary people are real. So we still have to understand that trans people are who we say we are.”

Cox said that gender-affirming care should be between the doctor and their patient — without any state intervention.

“Every reputable health organization in the United States and globally has said that gender affirming care is life-saving for trans youth,” Cox insisted. “That’s the science. Those decisions should always be made between a parent their doctor, and the child itself. The government should not have anything to do with what anybody is doing with their body.”

Elsewhere during the interview, Cox said that “a lot of conservatives were very frustrated when marriage quality became the law of the land” and that that prompted them to begin fearmongering.

“[W]hen that decision came down, they were like, ‘OK, what can we do to fear monger? What can we do to divide people on cultural issues?'” Cox said. “The conservative party doesn’t have an economic message for working class people, so they are weaponizing cultural wars. They’re talking about Dr. Seuss and transgender children playing sports when there’s still a global pandemic and people have lost their jobs.”

Cox added, “[I]nstead of having messaging around that, they’re trying to use trans people and cultural wars to gin up sort of this outrage. It’s just cynical.”

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Parents of nonbinary autistic child say child asked to be called ‘they’ at 6: ‘How did you feel when you first realized that I was a boy-girl?’

Massachusetts parents Shira and Ari have opened up on their child’s announcement that the child is “non-binary.”

What are the details?

Shira and Ari’s autistic child, 9-year-old Hallel, was born a boy — but Hallel, according to his parents and WBUR-TV — made the announcement that he was both boy and girl at just six years old.

During one particular round of “pretend,” Hallel said that younger sister Ya’ara wanted to play “parents.”

Ya’ara, according to the outlet, wanted to be the mother, as she is a girl, and said that Hallel would be the father. Hallel immediately felt uncomfortable with this assignment, their parents said, and responded, “But that doesn’t feel right, ’cause I’m a boy-girl.”

Shira said that she took note of her child’s proclamation and responded, “I was like, ‘Well, we love you whoever you are, give me a hug.'”

Ari recalled that it felt like the beginning of a long journey.

“I don’t know exactly what’s going to happen next, but what I do know for sure is that this is happening,” he admitted.

WBUR reported, “To clarify, Ari and Shira had known for some time that Hallel was not a traditional boy. If they bought action figures, Hallel preferred female characters. Hallel would watch fairy movies one day and draw dresses, then dress and act more like what they expected from a boy.”

Ari and Shira said they never had an issue with their child’s expressions of play, because they know that there’s “lots of ways to be a boy and lots of ways to be a girl.”

“Both parents had read about people who are transgender, but didn’t know anyone who’d made the transition from male to female or female to male,” WBUR’s Martha Bebinger wrote. “Shira and Ari were not familiar with the term ‘nonbinary,’ which refers to people who don’t see themselves as strictly male or female, or people who move between genders. Hallel’s self-described status as a boy-girl seemed like it might resolve years of confusion.”

A few months after Hallel stated feelings of being a “boy-girl,” Shira took to Facebook and announced the news.

She wrote:

Here are some things I would like to throw into the Facebook stratosphere instead of telling anyone directly. …My child who was born a boy tells me he is a boy/girl. This is okay most of the time because we are mostly happy and mostly secure and have wonderful supportive friends and family who don’t see gender as a barrier. … Sometimes I go places where people don’t know our family and I get questions which come from a good place but they are hard to answer: ‘… What are you going to do when he hits puberty? Shouldn’t you be telling him who he is instead of allowing him to figure it out?’ … The best advice we have gotten is to follow our child, and that is what we are doing. … Not in my wildest dreams did I think I’d be struggling with these issues. … Control over our children is an illusion and I’m glad I learned this lesson early. Still I am so happy with the family we are.

‘I just feel like myself, and that’s it’

Three years later, Hallel crawled into bed with Shira and Ari and asked, “How did you feel when you first realized that I was a boy-girl?”

Shira answered, “I was kind of scared because I just wanted you to have a normal life. I didn’t want things to be super hard for you. Abba [a Hebrew name for daddy] and I knew for a very long time before you said anything that something was a little bit different about your gender. So we were not going to force you to fit in a certain box. But I think when we first found out, we were nervous because we want things to be easy for you.”

Hallel told Shira and Ari that the child was unable to describe what, in particular, a “boy-girl” feels like.

“I just feel like myself, and that’s it,” Hallel told Shira and Ari. “I don’t feel that differently from anybody else. … There’s nothing specific for boys or girls. I just feel like a girl, as well as a boy.”

Shira and Ari said that they take Hallel to “special needs camps,” spend a lot of time explaining “nonbinary” to the curious, and attend “nonbinary meetups” to further Hallel’s comfort level with the announcement.

Shira told Bebinger, “I literally grew somebody who I thought was a boy in my body. I gave birth after three days of labor … so if you think you’re having trouble with my child’s gender, imagine what it’s like to have concerns day in and day out about whether this child is going to be OK when they grow up. When people raise objections, it really, really hurts and it makes me mad.”

The family say they often struggle to maintain using “they” when referring to Hallel, but the 9-year-old has a suggestion: “Refer to me as a group of people.”

Shira said she recalled asking her child, “Do you remember what grandma said to you, the way that she helps to remind herself? She thinks of God. She feels like God is very universal, and not a he or she, but more a they. And so she thinks of God when she refers to you.”

Nonbinary in school and other places

Hallel said that children at school often tell Hallel that the child is in the wrong bathroom.

“On Mondays, Thursdays, and Fridays, I go into the boys’ or men’s bathroom,” Hallel said. “On Tuesday, Wednesday, and Saturday, I go into the women’s bathroom. And on Sunday, I just go to whatever bathroom’s to my right.”

Bebinger also said that the family is concerned about what will happen when the Jewish family is ready to prepare for Hallel’s bar mitzvah and said that they are planning a “bart mitzvah,” a combination of a boy’s “bar mitzvah” and a girl’s “bat mitzvah.”

“What is that going to look like when the whole ritual is about affirming yourself as a Jewish male or a Jewish female?” Shira asked and pointed to concerns surrounding Hallel’s puberty.

“We’ve started to talk with Hallel a little bit,” Ari said. “Hallel very much understands that there are male bodies and female bodies, and on the basis of this conversation, Hallel says they feel comfortable with having a male body. So that’s where we are right now.”

Concerns

Despite the family’s welcoming disposition toward their child’s unconventional announcement, Shira said she is nervous.

“I am very worried about what Hallel’s future will look like,” she said. “My kid affirmed who they are, and … I decided to accept them. But what’s that going to look like when Hallel is 11, 12, 13 in adolescence? I hope it’s gonna be wonderful. I don’t know though.”

Ari, who teaches at a local college, added that he believes Hallel will be OK.

“My students are very comfortable with the idea that people don’t have just male and female genders, and I think that says a lot for our future,” Ari said. “I’m personally very hopeful that Hallel will live in a world where they can be who they want to be.”

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‘Non-religious’ woman makes headlines after freaking out over her son’s religious 7-year-old friend — who won’t stop preaching Jesus’ love

An anonymous woman has made headlines for writing into Slate’s Dear Prudence for advice, asking how she should deal with a child who insists on preaching Jesus’ love to her 7-year-old son.

What are the details?

The woman, whose message is signed, “Don’t Preach to My Kid, Kid,” explains that she and her husband — who are both “non-religious” and who have decided to raise their children without religion — don’t appreciate that one of their son’s friends — who is Mormon — continues to be vocal about the faith his parents passed down to him.

The woman wrote, “My problem is this kid is REALLY pushy with his religion. Pretty much every time they spend time together this kid is trying to teach mine about a Bible story or giving him religious presents or talking about how Jesus loves him.”

“We have talked to our son about how people believe different things that we don’t, but lately he has been asking questions about the Bible, or why we don’t go to church more often,” the woman complained. “To be clear, I don’t blame my son’s friend. I know Mormons typically teach their kids to proselytize to others, and the boy isn’t really old enough to know better.”

The woman, who clearly doesn’t appear to understand the concept of God’s love and forgiveness, said that she does not want her son to “learn these things” and appeared to suggest that children are manipulated into doing the “right thing” out of fear of God’s punishment.

“But I don’t really want my son to learn these things,” she added. “I don’t want him to be religious, honestly. I want him to learn that you should be a good person and do the right thing because it’s the right thing to do, not because God will punish you if you don’t.”

The woman said that she reached out to the child’s parents, who apparently brushed off her concerns.

“I don’t want to stop him from spending time with this friend, but I don’t really want my son to get some of these religious ideas in his head so young,” she continued. “I have considered talking to this kid about it, but I am concerned that that would be inappropriate since I’m not his parent, and therefore shouldn’t really be interfering with his religious upbringing.”

The response?

Slate’s “Prudence” — transgender author Daniel Lavery, who grew up in an evangelical Christian family — responded, “I’m completely on your side here. There’s nothing wrong with your son learning about other religions, but I wouldn’t be happy with anyone — kid or not — trying to make my children follow a certain religion.”

Lavery added that the woman has “every right” to address her concerns with her 7-year-old son’s friend.

“If his friend said, ‘You should run across this busy street with me. It would be fun,’ would you think, ‘I don’t know … it’s not my place to intervene because I’m not his parent?’ No, you would step in immediately. The same rule applies in any instance that relates to what’s best for your child.”

Lavery continued, “I think it’s fine to tell the kid that you don’t want to hear any talk about salvation, Jesus, the Bible, or anything else while he’s playing with your son, and that if it continues, then playtime is over.”

Lavery also said that the woman should “coach” her child to shut down any Christian talk if necessary.

“If his friend won’t stop talking about religion, then you need to show how serious you are by ending the playdate right then and there,” Lavery continued. “If it comes to that, then I would reach out to his parents to explain how you don’t feel comfortable with your son taking part in those conversations at his age. They may get offended, but if they’re reasonable, they should fall in line.”

Lavery’s advice concluded, “The bottom line is everyone has a right to believe what they want to believe, but that doesn’t mean they have to push those beliefs on your family.”

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11-year-old transgender girl and father create ‘form-fitting’ swimsuit line for trans children: ‘Magically turn a pointy poker into a dainty dune’

A father and his 11-year-old transgender child have collaborated to craft a swimwear line for trans children.

What are the details?

According to a Thursday BuzzFeed report, Jamie Alexander and his 11-year-old child, Ruby — who both live in Canada — created Rubies, which is branded as “form-fitting clothes for trans girls.”

The brand includes swimwear, underwear, and more, all intent on shaping the appearance of “nonbinary” bodies.

“The outside [of the swimwear] is made of a shaping spandex, and in the inside, there are two layers of mesh that keep everything in place,” Ruby says. “No need for tucking or for large padding in the front.”

Alexander told BuzzFeed that Ruby’s transgender journey began when the child was just 3 years old.

“Ruby’s relationship with girls’ clothing and shoes as she navigated her gender identity may have started as early as 3 years old,” he told the outlet of his child’s journey to crafting the brand.

He explained that when the child was just 4 years old, Ruby would spend more time at the beach crafting a towel into a flowing skirt rather than playing in the water or building castles in the sand.

“We went to the beach often, and while some kids chose to swim in the lake or build sandcastles, Ruby would spend hours fashioning her towel into a skirt,” he recalled. “Once she got it just right, she would sashay along the beach as though she was in a photo shoot.”

By 5 years old, Alexander told the outlet, Ruby was obsessed by princesses.

“Ruby always wanted to act out the movie ‘Tangled’ — with me as the prince and her as Rapunzel,” he recalled. “Her head was always wrapped up in multiple bedsheets, knotted together, and dangling down a flight of stairs to aid to her rescue. That performance ran every day for a solid year.”

By third grade, it seemed apparent to Ruby and Alexander that the child was ready to transition, he said.

Alexander said that Ruby just wanted to be able to “wear the same clothes as most of her girlfriends.”

“In some cases, it seemed she wouldn’t be able to do so safely until I started exploring options for trans girls,” he said. “I discovered there are a few places where you can buy bikinis and underwear geared toward trans people. Ruby has tried a few with varying levels of success.”

Ruby’s experiences prompted the two to work together to craft their own brand, Rubies.

“I would like to imagine a world where kids can wear whatever they want, irrespective of their anatomy,” he told the outlet in conclusion. “I am certain in another generation, this will be the case, at least in the progressive cities of North America. In the meantime, we can find ways to help our kids express themselves safely.”

In a recent interview with the Times of Israel — which points out the brand markets its product as suits that “magically turn a pointy poker into a dainty dune” — Alexander said that the brand is popular with parents who “appreciate that someone cares and is doing something for these kids.”

Ruby told the outlet, “I like working with my dad. I’m learning real-world skills like expenses, costs, and customer service. And I model the products.”


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A new congressional report proves that the institutions of marriage and family are being systematically destroyed in America

The numbers that I am about to share with you are extremely sobering, and they should be a massive wake up call for all of us.  Yesterday, I wrote an article about how our society is breaking down everywhere we look, and nowhere is this more evident than in our marriages and in our families.  But without strong marriages and strong families, no society can thrive for long.  Recently, the Social Capital Project of the Joint Economic Committee Republicans released a report entitled “The Demise of the Happy Two-Parent Home”, but you probably never heard about it until now because it was almost entirely ignored by the mainstream media.  I have never seen a congressional report document the collapse of marriage and family in American society to such an extent, and to be honest it is quite surprising to see such a quality piece of work come out of Washington.

I have selected nine of the most alarming quotes from the report and put them in bold below.  Following each quote from the report, I am going to share some of my own commentary…

#1 Overall, between 1962 and 2019, the percentage of women ages 15-44 who were married dropped from 71 percent to 42 percent (Figure 1).16 Furthermore, Figure 2 shows the percentage of women ages 30-34 who had never married increased from 7 percent in 1962 to 35 percent in 2019.17

Numbers for men are similar, but they were not included in the report.  We have never seen marriage rates collapse like this ever before, and most of the decline can be attributed to the fact that many young Americans simply do not see any reason to get married anymore.

These days, many would prefer to be free to run around having sex with whoever they want.  When they become dissatisfied with their current sexual partner, they just move on and find someone else.

#2 Today, around 45 percent of American children spend some time without a biological parent by late adolescence.3 That is up from around one-third of children born in the 1960s and one-fifth to one-quarter born in the 1950s.4 

Study after study has shown that children do better with two parents, and so the fact that nearly half of our children have been raised by just one parent for at least a portion of their lives is extremely alarming.

I have tremendous respect for single parents, but if our society is going to thrive we need a whole lot more two parent households.

#3 Single parenthood is experienced by two-thirds of the children of mothers with less than a high school education and by eighty percent of black children.

Over the past several decades, impoverished Americans have increasingly been drawn to the ideology of the Democratic Party.

But the ideology of the Democratic Party does not value marriage and family, and in impoverished communities all across America the results have been absolutely disastrous.

Unfortunately, the Republican Party is increasingly moving away from traditional values as well, and that is an extremely alarming trend.

#4 Among women ages 19 to 44 who married between 1965 and 1974, just 11 percent had cohabited with their husbands prior to marriage, but that number jumped to 32 percent among those who married between 1975 and 1979 and continued to soar thereafter. For the past two decades, two-thirds of new marriages have been preceded by cohabitation.28

These days, the vast majority of young couples want to “live together” before they get married.

But study after study has shown that couples that “live together” before marriage have much less long-term success than couples that don’t.

In the old days, it was clearly understood that cohabitation prior to marriage was wrong, but these days hardly anyone wants to speak out against it.

#5 The decline in marriage and the increase in cohabitation has led to substantial growth in unwed childbearing. The percent of births to unmarried mothers has jumped from five percent in 1960 to 40 percent today (Figure 6).29

It is hard to believe that things have gotten this bad.

How in the world is our society going to be successful when 40 percent of our children are being born into unstable family situations?

These days, many young men don’t feel any responsibility for the children that they father, and that is something that must change if we ever want to have any hope of turning our country in the right direction.

#6 In a 2007 study researchers found that 50 percent of children born to cohabiting parents experienced a maternal partnership transition by their third birthday, compared to just 13 percent of children in married-parent families.32 Thus, children born into households where the parents are not married are much more likely to see their parents break up.

This is yet more evidence that cohabitation is a bad idea.

The order is supposed to go like this – get married, live together and then have children.

But these days so many young couples are doing things in the exact opposite order, and the vast majority of the time that does not work out at all.

#7 As of 2019, 57 percent of highly-educated women ages 15-44 were married, compared to only 36 percent of moderately-educated women and 18 percent of women with low education (Figure 8).39 These differences were much smaller in the mid-1960s, with less than ten percentage points separating the three groups in 1964.

Numbers for men are similar, but once again the numbers for men were not included in this report.

To be honest, I was a bit surprised by the huge differences among the various groups.

Does not having money make both men and women less desirable to potential marriage partners?

#8 Two-thirds of births (65 percent) among women with low education occur outside of marriage as of 2018 along with half (52 percent) of births to moderately-educated women (Figure 9). Among highly-educated women, however, just 11 percent occur outside marriage.40 

If you are a woman and you have a child outside of marriage while you are very young, it is very likely that you will have to work to support that child.

So any dreams of a higher education are often delayed, and in many cases those delays end up being permanent.

#9 Women with a bachelor’s degree and married for the first time are very likely to be married for a long time; 78 percent will still be married 20 years later. However, among women entering their first marriage who have some college but no bachelor’s degree, it is as likely as not that their marriage will end within 20 years. Among women with no more than a high school diploma, just 40 percent will still be in their first marriage after 20 years.

The U.S. has one of the highest divorce rates in the entire world, and things are especially bad in our impoverished communities.

As a result, vast numbers of children in our impoverished communities live in broken homes, and those that come from broken homes tend to be much more likely to gravitate toward crime, drugs and violence.

The bottom line is that if we want to fix America, we have got to fix our families.  In the report, the authors included a remarkable quote from Princeton University sociologist Sara McLanahan…

If we were asked to design a system for making sure that children’s basic needs were met, we would probably come up with something quite similar to the two-parent ideal. Such a design, in theory, would not only ensure that children had access to the time and money of two adults, it also would provide a system of checks and balances that promoted quality parenting. The fact that both parents have a biological connection to the child would increase the likelihood that the parents would identify with the child and be willing to sacrifice for that child, and it would reduce the likelihood that either parent would abuse the child.

For thousands of years, two parent families have worked, and the reason they have worked is because that is how things were originally designed.

Sadly, these days most Americans find traditional values repugnant, and they think that they have figured out a better way of doing things.

Of course the truth is that they have greatly deceived themselves, and if we stay on this current path there is absolutely no future for us as a nation.

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Dads tackle, detain registered sex offender accused of peeping at 15-year-old girl under restroom stall

A 15-year-old girl said that when she was in the women’s restroom at a South Carolina Cracker Barrel on Sunday morning, she noticed something moving at her feet, WSPA-TV reported.

Image source: WSPA-TV video screenshot

Turns out it was a man’s head coming from the adjacent stall — and the man was looking at her, the girl told Duncan Police, according to the station.

What happened next?

When the girl left the restroom, WSPA said she told her father, who then got a female employee to remove the man from the restroom.

Witnesses said the 15-year-old wasn’t the only girl in the restroom: “I’ll never forget the way they looked after,” one noted to the station. “They were traumatized.”

Police Chief Carl Long told WSPA the girl’s father confronted the man at the restroom entrance. And the dad apparently had a special greeting for him

“The guy came running, sprinting out the front door with a very bloody nose,” a witness told the station.

A witness told WYFF-TV he heard a commotion that sounded like a fight and heard people say, “Get him! He’s getting away!”

Long added to WSPA that other fathers aware of what happened reportedly helped tackle the man in the parking lot and restrained him until police arrived.

The witness who spoke to WYFF said he and his his son saw people hit the man, and then the witness handed off his son to his wife and went outside and recorded video.

Image source: WSPA-TV video screenshot

That same witness added to the station that his son asked him a lot of questions about what happened, and he told his boy that “there was a bad guy, and a lot of good guys took down the bad guy.”

Image source: WSPA-TV video screenshot

Long told WYFF that the parents were in town for a girls’ softball tournament.

Who is the suspect?

Police identified the suspect as 53-year-old registered sex offender Douglas Lane of Charlotte, North Carolina, WSPA reported. Lane’s phone was found on the bathroom floor and was taken by police, the station said.

Douglas LaneImage source: Spartanburg Co. (South Carolina) Detention Center

Long told the station that Lane was charged with voyeurism and possession of marijuana and drug paraphernalia in connection with Sunday’s incident.

Lane was charged for peeping at least eight previous times, WSPA reported.

During Monday’s bond hearing, a court official said Lane told authorities he didn’t realize he was in the women’s restroom until he sat down, WYFF reported.

WSPA said Lane received a $2,000 surety bond and will be monitored by GPS. The judge also ordered that he move to South Carolina but must have no contact with the victim or her family, the station added. Lane’s initial court hearing will be 9 a.m. Nov. 12, WSPA reported.

Additional charges could be possible at the conclusion of the investigation, the station said.

More from WYFF:

The North Carolina State Bureau of Investigations says Lane was registered as a sex offender in 2008.

He was convicted of secretly peeping into an occupied room in 2004 in Mecklenburg County, North Carolina, records show. The record says the victims were 8 and 9 years old.

In 2008, records show Lane was convicted of secretly peeping into an occupied room, also in Mecklenburg County. The victim in this case was 18 years or older, records show.

The South Carolina sex offender registry says Lane was convicted of peeping, voyeurism or aggravated voyeurism in South Carolina in 1997 and failure to register in 1999.

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Julie Lythcott-Haims: Writer, Speaker, and Human

This episode’s remarkable guest is Julie Lythcott-Haims. She is an author, speaker, former educator, and former corporate lawyer. 

Julie holds a BA from Stanford, a law degree from Harvard, and an MFA in writing from the California College of the Arts. She ended her legal career to go to work at Stanford and was the Dean of Freshmen and Undergraduate Advising. In other words, she advised first-year students. 

She is the author of four books: New York Times Best-selling How to Raise an Adult,  Real American: A MemoirWriting Memoir, and soon to be released Your Turn: How to be an Adult. This is the most passionate and eloquent interview I’ve ever conducted. You’ll hear what I mean shortly. 

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This was a deep dive interview covering questions like:

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  • How non-Blacks can use their privilege to call out racism and micro-aggressions

 


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Kanye West sobs, ‘I almost killed my daughter’ with abortion, says God stopped him. His family is ‘seriously concerned’ for his mental health now.

The family of rapper and supposed presidential candidate Kanye West, according to TMZ, is “seriously concerned” over West’s Sunday appearance at a South Carolina rally and reportedly says that the Christian entertainer is in the middle of a very serious bipolar episode.

West broke down in tears during his first campaign rally for the 2020 presidential election and claimed that he almost aborted his daughter.

West announced his presidential bid on July 5, but having missed the deadline to qualify for the ballot in several states, he qualified to appear on Oklahoma’s presidential ballot.

What did he say that’s reportedly got them so upset?

At the Sunday night rally in Charleston, South Carolina, West sobbed, saying that he had pressured his wife, Kim Kardashian, to abort their child North West in the months following the news of Kardashian’s pregnancy.

“I almost killed my daughter!” he shrieked. “I almost killed my daughter!”

“I was having the rapper’s lifestyle,” he recalled. “I was sitting up in Paris, and I had my leather pants on. … I had my laptop up, and I got all of my creative ideas. … And then the screen went black and white and God said, ‘If you f*** with my vision, I’m going to f*** with yours.”

West, openly crying at this point, said that the moment prompted him to phone Kardashian and tell her that he didn’t want her to have an abortion.

“I called my wife and she said, ‘We’re gonna have this baby.’ I said ‘We’re gonna have this child.’ … Even if my wife were to divorce me after this speech, she brought North into the world when I didn’t want to,” he said. “[Kardashian] stood up and she protected that child.”

According to TMZ, people around West believe he is in “desperate need of professional help,” but he reportedly refuses to listen to anyone.

The outlet adds that West’s remarks could hurt some of his businesses, “if not all of them.”

“His family and friends know comments like these are the things that trigger boycotts,” TMZ reports.

The Kardashian family is also unhappy that West discussed Kardashian’s first pregnancy with their daughter, North, and how the couple reportedly discussed abortion.

Finally, the outlet reports, “His family and friends are also upset because they feel Kanye is a distraction to what is a very important election.”

Elsewhere during his Sunday speech, West said that the media coverage of the rally would likely be negative.

“They’re going to run this,” he said. “They’re going to tell you that I’m crazy. [Well], the world’s crazy!”


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Also during the rally, West said that new parents should be given $1 million to discourage abortion.

“Everybody that has a baby gets a million dollars,” West said, according to reports from the Associated Press. West reportedly referred to the move as “Plan A,” which is in stark comparison to emergency contraceptive pill “Plan B.”

He explained, “If you had the opportunity to be given a million dollars, just for being pregnant, would you have considered it? And then everybody would start having children, the greatest gift of life.”

West also said that famous abolitionist Harriet Tubman did not actually free slaves.


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Episode-2690- Judy Arnall on Unschooling

Judy Arnall, BA, CCFE, DTM is a certified brain and child development specialist and master of non-punitive parenting and education practices. She is the bestselling author of 5 print books, including Unschooling To University, and is current President of Unschooling Continue reading →

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Episode-2678 – The Ultimate Conversation on Children and Technology

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Harvard professor blasts homeschooling: ‘Dangerous’ for parents to have ‘authoritarian control over their children’

A Harvard University law professor says homeschooling is dangerous because it allows parents to have “authoritarian control” over their children.

What are the details?

Featured in an article for Harvard Magazine, Elizabeth Bartholet — Wasserstein public interest professor of law and faculty director of the Law School’s Child Advocacy Program — argued that homeschooling for children is simply a means for depriving children of any “meaningful education.”

In the article, “The Risks of Homeschooling,” Bartholet wrote, “We have an essentially unregulated regime in the area of homeschooling. If you look at the legal regime governing homeschooling, there are very few requirements that parents do anything.”

She pointed out that children are missing out on the experience of a public education and will likely not be able to contribute to a democratic society because of their lack of such an experience and such “detrimental” isolation.

“The issue is, do we think that parents should have 24/7, essentially authoritarian control over their children from ages zero to 18?” she asked. “I think that’s dangerous. I think it’s always dangerous to put powerful people in charge of the powerless, and to give the powerful ones total authority.

“From the beginning of compulsory education in this country, we have thought of the government as having some right to educate children so that they become active, productive participants in the larger society,” she wrote. “But it’s also important that children grow up exposed to community values, social values, democratic values, ideas about nondiscrimination and tolerance of other people’s viewpoints.”

Bartholet did not appear to provide any fact-based information throughout her remarks to highlight the dangers of homeschooling, and, instead, offered up her opinion as a teacher of civil rights and family law. Bartholet, who said that she specializes in child welfare, adoption, and reproductive technology, also asserted that children are at a higher risk of enduring abuse due to being cut off from teachers and other non-family authority figures.

Was there any kind of response?

Melba Pearson, an honors graduate from Harvard University, took note of Bartholet’s remarks and refused to remain silent.

In a now-viral article published on Medium, Pearson — who was homeschooled prior to her Harvard University admission — wrote, “I was proud of my school, until last night, when I read Harvard Magazine’s article on the so-called ‘risks’ of homeschooling.”

“In essence, this article is not an attack on a form of education some might view as lesser quality,” she added. “In essence, this article is an attack on the fundamental rights and freedoms that make our country (and until recently, institutions such as Harvard) what they are.”

She continued, “The idea that a government, already so inefficient and inadequate in so many areas, can care for and educate every child better than its parent is wrong.”

Pearson insisted that she was accepted at the prestigious school — and excelled — because she was homeschooled.

“[O]f that, I am proud,” she concluded. “It is deeply disappointing that Harvard is choosing and promoting an intellectual totalitarian path that calls for a ban of the liberties that helped me and countless others succeed, for it is those liberties and ideals that have made America the great nation it is today.”

(H/T: Faithwire)

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New study says children are suffering scary nightmares and losing sleep over climate change

Children are losing sleep and having nightmares over climate change, according to a new study cited by the Independent.

What are the details?

BBC Newsround conducted a survey on 2,000 children ages 8 to 16 to determine their thoughts around “eco-anxiety.”

The survey found that 80% of children surveyed said the issue of climate change was important to them. Additionally, 73% of children surveyed added that they experience worry over climate change — 22% of those revealed that they are “very worried.”

The outlet reported that 58% of children surveyed are concerned that climate change will impact them personally, and 19% of children admitted that they had nightmares over the climate crisis. And 17% of the children surveyed added that they have been so bothered by climate change that the very idea has disrupted their regular patterns of eating and sleeping

A whopping 41% of children surveyed also said they don’t believe adults in roles of responsibility are doing what they should to quash climate change and its effects on the planet.

What else?

The outlet cited Emma Citron, who is a consultant clinical child psychologist, who said that eco-activist teen Greta Thunberg has served as a positive role model for such afflicted children.

“Public figures like David Attenborough and Greta Thunberg have helped young people to voice their worries and we have to make sure that we as adults listen to them and empower them by giving talks at school and in their communities to help them become involved in positive change,” Citron told the outlet.

She added, “We all need to support them not to feel hopeless but rather to present to them hopeful and balanced messages about their futures and ensure that they get the right professional help if their anxiety is unduly high.”

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Children as young as 9 months old and their parents watch drag queen lead room in song: ‘Show things that kids haven’t seen before’

Children as young as 9 months old and their parents attended a Drag Queen Story Hour at a Washington, D.C., community center Saturday, the Daily Caller reported.

It was an event that provided an opportunity to “show things that kids haven’t seen before,” the performer “Cake” told the outlet.

What are the details?

More than 50 people attended the event at the LINE Hotel D.C. community center, which was hosted in collaboration with the D.C. Public Library, library spokeswoman Johnna Percell told the outlet.

Cake — decked out in high heels, a pink wig, makeup, and a glittery leotard outfit — read three books to about 30 children, the Daily Caller said, adding that parents held kids too young to walk in their arms while other toddlers stood near the front of the stage.

The drag queen began with the song “The More We Get Together,” encouraging parents and children to sing along, the outlet reported, after which Cake read the book “The Snowy Day” and two other books before leading the group in a rendition of “If You’re Happy and You Know It”:


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‘Show things that kids haven’t seen before’

After the event, Cake told the Daily Caller that “it’s, like, pretty cool that we’re able to expand everyone’s horizons and show things that kids haven’t seen before.”

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Drag Queen Story Hours started out as niche events on the West Coast but have spread to libraries and schools across the U.S. The official Drag Queen Story Hour website boasts over 45 independently operated chapters across the U.S., including in New York City, D.C. and Chicago, as well as two international chapters in Tokyo and in Berlin.

The events are designed to be about 45 minutes long for children aged 3 to 8 years old and intended to capture children’s imagination and help children explore their gender fluidity through “glamorous, positive, and unabashedly queer role models,” according to the Drag Queen Story Hour’s official website.

Cake told the DCNF that Drag Queen Story Hour’s expansion across the U.S. is “great.”

“I think it’s good that people are open. It’s, of course, optional for anyone that wants to bring their kids to it,” Cake told the Daily Caller, adding that “I think it’s great to see these opportunities popping up.”

What did parents have to say?

“This is my second one that I’ve brought her to,” mother Marisa Kline told outlet in reference to her 1-year-old daughter Matilda. “As she gets older, she pays more attention, loves the stories and so yeah we will keep coming.”

Kline added to the Daily Caller that “it’s such a great thing that D.C. communities do. It’s one of the reasons we live in this neighborhood … we like the diversity and the community.”

She also told the outlet she “would fundamentally disagree” with those who believe Drag Queen Story Hours aren’t appropriate for children.

“I think giving kids as many perspectives on the world is really important, and I think that drag queens in particular teach kids positivity and acceptance,” Kline added to the Daily Caller. “Those are absolutely values I want to pass on to my daughter.”

Meg Dominguez brought her 1 1/2-year-old daughter Evangeline to the Drag Queen Story Hour because “the more opportunities that kids get exposed to the better,” she told the outlet, adding that “it’s a great opportunity and way to show different diversity and expose kids to different ways of self-expression.”

A babysitter showed up, too

A babysitter — who gave only a first name, Shane — brought a child to the event and told the Daily Caller, “He was just taking it all in. I think it’s a little different because he’s not with his parents so he’s feeling a little bit shy.”

Shane added to the outlet that the child’s parents knew they were at the Drag Queen Story Hour.

“I love it because I am familiar with drag queens in my personal life on the evening side of things as a part of the nightlife and actually brunch life,” Shane told the Daily Caller. “I haven’t gotten the opportunity to run into a drag queen on the scene at a library.”

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ABC hosts gush over Dwyane Wade’s 12-year-old trans child: ‘She seems wise beyond her 12 years!’

“Good Morning America” co-anchors George Stephanopoulos and Robin Roberts gushed over former NBA player Dwayne Wade’s 12-year-old transgender daughter.

Wade, 38, and his wife, 47-year-old actress Gabrielle Union, made the decision to allow their pre-teen biological son to transition into a female.

What are the details?

During a clip of the interview featuring Wade and his family, Stephanopoulos lauded the former basketball star’s parenting skills.

“NBA legend Dwayne Wade here live talking about his daughter Zaya’s courage coming out as transgender, and his new documentary,” Stephanopoulos said.

According to Newsbusters, the athlete told Roberts that the child was “leader” of the family who “educated” the rest of their family on what it meant to be a transgender child.

“You said that she helped you and the family have a better understanding and helped you with this,” Roberts said to Wade in the clip. “How was she able to do that?”

Wade responded, “Well, she’s our leader. … It was a process for us to sit down with our daughter and find out who she is and what she likes and not put something on her, because, as parents, we put our hopes and we put our fears on our kids.”

Wade revealed that his daughter knew she was transgender from the tender young age of 3.

Roberts later added, “Wade says he and his wife actress Gabrielle Union didn’t have all the answers when Zaya first approached them and became educating themselves to support their daughter. … She seems wise beyond her 12 years!”

What else?

Wade also said he knew that his daughter was different “early on,” and said that he had to educate himself and remain open-minded in order to be a successful parent of a transgender child.

“I knew early on that I had to check myself,” he admitted. “That’s what I knew. I knew early on that I had to ask myself questions. … I’ve been a person in a locker room that has been a part of the conversation that has said the wrong phrases and the wrong words myself.

“As I got older and I watched my daughter grow, I had to go and look at myself in the mirror and say, ‘Who are you? What are you going to do if your child comes home and says, ‘Dad, I’m not a boy — I’m a trans girl.’ What are you going to do?”

Wade is also father to 18-year-old son Zaire, 6-year-old son Xavier, and 1-year-old daughter Kaavia. Wade’s ex-wife Siohvaughn Funches is Zaya’s mother.

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Episode-2551- Morgan Rogue on Prepping with Kids

Morgan Rogue is a wife and mom of two daughters (3 year old and 4 month old) living in TX. She has been prepping for the past 10 years. She is on a mission to encourage the ordinary person to Continue reading →

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